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These suggestions are also informed by clinical research on relationships as well as my personal research as a recent dater.
Men Are Avoidant
Generally speaking, women are socialized to connect. If you are having trouble expressing your emotions, or asking for what you need in your relationship, consider Couples Therapy. Is he showing you kindness?
Some gay men focus solely on beauty when they date.
If you find yourself outpacing the other person, be aware of your emotions, take a step back and let the other person catch up. Avoid interrupting or dismissing their feelings.
If the relationship doesn’t evolve after the first few meetings, it doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with you.
Sir Edmund Hillary, the first mountaineer to summit Mt. Everest without supplemental oxygen, once said, “It is not the mountains we conquer but ourselves.” I remember feeling something very similar after my much less significant achievement. If you want monogamy, it is available.
Adopting a Marketing Mindset
Do you have friends who do marketing for a living?
Understand legal rights, resources, and available support networks. They can hear wedding bells ringing after the first date! Abandon hopeless relationships.
I can’t stress this enough. Support each other’s aspirations and give each other space to pursue personal goals and hobbies. Avoid making assumptions and strive to understand each other’s perspectives.
Ask for what you want.
You can’t always get what you ask for, but you certainly can’t get what you don’t ask for. Learn to accept yourself and your partner and let go of the burden of guilt related to being gay. Value each other’s opinions, boundaries, and individuality. This helps strengthen your bond and maintain a sense of connection.
You’ll need support when there is rejection, you’ll want a second opinion when you are confused, and it feels great to share the excitement when a dates go well.