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“Yes, I have been sucking my straight friend’s cock,” Sam said to me.

He’s supposedly having sex⁠ (Different things people choose to do to actively express or enact sexuality and sexual feelings; often this involves genitals, but not always. It sounds like you’re more worried about your friendship with him than his sexual orientation. Cunnilingus (“going down on”), fellatio (“blowjobs”) and analingus (“rimming”) are some common kinds of oral sex.)?

Ever since then, it’s been extremely awkward between us. Behavior is different; it’s what we’re doing sexually. For example, if you know you’re straight but you’ve never had sex, can you not call yourself straight? Super! I don’t think he believed me. I also have to say that sometimes these conversations can be hard for guys because we get a lot of media and societal messages about “being a man” and what “real men” do or don’t do.

I really like sucking dick and I’m really enjoying sucking his dick. When thinking about sexuality I often break it down into smaller categories: orientation, behavior, and identity⁠ (The defining character or personality of an individual; who we feel like we are as a person.). Which means I have no way of knowing for sure why that woman ghosted you or if your boyfriend is gay—or in your case, THROAT, how Sam feels about the four unreciprocated blow jobs he’s given you.

Only Sam knows.

And that’s why I wrote you back, THROAT, asked you for Sam’s contact information, and offered to ask Sam on your behalf.

What should I do? And Sam assumes that at some point, memories are all he’ll have.

“[I expect that] he’ll eventually get into a relationship with a woman again and our arrangement will end,” said Sam. “I only hope nothing is weird between us in the future because of what has happened in the past few weeks.”

I had one last question: Sam is really good at sucking cock—he gives “earth-shattering” blow jobs—but is THROAT any good at getting his cock sucked?

“And I am flattered he told you I was good at it. v

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As for “forcing him to admit he’s gay”, as I said, maybe he is and maybe he isn’t.

Awesome! Sam knows I am not into guys and I’m never going to reciprocate, and I feel like this is probably not really fair to him.

You can mention to your friend that you will support, respect, and like him no matter how he identifies, but that does not mean that he needs to tell you in that moment how he identifies. We even started joking about it right away.”

So does this lopsided sexual arrangement—blowing a straight boy who’s never going to blow him—bother Sam?

“I suppose it is a ‘lopsided sexual arrangement,'” said Sam.

“But I don’t mind. I said no, he kept badgering me to do it, I kept saying no, and then he physically tried to shove my head down toward his crotch. It’s just that he’s really starting to lose respect for me.